How do I get over a toxic narcissistic best friend for whom I had feelings due to a trauma bond?
In Narcissistic Abuse Discussions
Jul 25, 2022
Sounds like you are trauma bonded! Im so sorry you have been though all of this!! Must have been so hard. Let me try and give you my answer ... How do you forgive and let go of resentment? How can you feel at peace with yourself again? How can you move on and stop thinking about the abuser you thought was a good friend? How to get over these obsessive "feelings" of love from the trauma bond to feel at peace? Let me start right there. I was married for 15 years. I know now she was a narcissist and everything I went through was about her not me. It was horrific, she took everything from me and I thought I would never get over it. I was devastated. zoom forward eight years and Im numb, I have no reaction to it. Its like thinking about a film i once watched. I can remember how I felt but 'she' could fall over and die tomorrow and I wouldn't care now. So I think time is the healing power. Give yourself enough 'time' and you dont think about them anymore.